The word “ladylike” has several definitions, some of which are “polite, refined, well-bred, polished, proper, respectable, well-mannered, elegant, and sophisticated.” Does any of this describe you? Do you carry and conduct yourself like a lady, or do you act like one of the guys? I’m not asking that to be judgmental or critical. But, being born a female does not necessarily make one a lady, or ladylike.
God has called us to be women of virtue. But, what exactly does that mean? It means that God wants us to live in the power and anointing of His strength, rather than our own. He has graced us to do this. The virtue found in God’s Word provides us with everything we need—righteousness, strength, ability, and anointing. These attributes instill in us a strong sense of value and spiritual excellence.
As Christian women we have a high standard to live up to. We are children of the Most High God. We are part of a royal priesthood, a holy nation. We are part of a royal family and we should carry ourselves accordingly. Think about the royal family in England, specifically the Queen of England and the Duchess. How do they conduct themselves? Like royalty! They’re always poised, polite, refined, respectable, and polished. Their excellent breeding is evident to everyone. When we make Jesus the Lord of our lives, His character should be seen in every area of our life; in the way we think, act, speak, dress, and behave. The key is renewing our mind with God’s Word in order to become His godly representatives in the earth.
Ladylike does not mean boring, uptight, stiff, or reserved. If you ask anybody that knows me, especially my husband and children, they will tell you that I love to have fun and that I have quite an adventurous nature! I’ve gone to the race track and raced cars and visited shooting ranges. It’s perfectly okay to enjoy various social activities because all work and no play makes for a dull life, and Christ came so we could have and enjoy the abundant life (John 10:10).
Now, one thing a lady is not is LOUD! This is not a good representation of a virtuous, ladylike woman. The Word calls that kind of woman foolish, clamorous, and simple (Proverbs 9:13). It goes on to say that the foolish woman knows nothing. She’s silly. If you’re loud, tone it down a bit. Don’t scream across the parking lot! A ladylike woman conducts herself with grace, and in a way that glorifies God. Whether you have a husband or not, you are far more attractive when you choose to use gentle words and demonstrate kind behavior.
God has prepared a glorious life for women. We tap into the virtue we need by tapping into the Source that produces that virtue—the Word of God. Believe what God says about you, and then be willing to do what He says with a glad heart. Don’t make decisions or act in an unbecoming, worldly way. Instead, let your decisions and behavior be based on God’s Word.